I have completed my training and I am now a Licensed NLP
 (Neuro-Linguistic Programming) Master Practitioner.
 Barbara Stepp, Master Trainer
Licensed by The Society of NLP–Richard Bandler  
I am currently working toward my certification as NLP Master Practitioner through www.excelquest.com/ please, read more about NLP from Barbara Stepp website.
Practitioners of personal mastery exhibit the following characteristics:

  • They have a sense of purpose that lies behind their goals
  • Their vision is more like a calling than a good idea
  • They see current reality as an ally, not an enemy
  • They are committed to seeing reality increasingly accurately
  • They are extremely inquisitive
  • They do not resist, but work with, the forces of change
  • They feel connected to others and to life itself
  • They feel that they are part of a larger creative process that they can influence but cannot unilaterally control
 Personal mastery is not a destination.  It is a life-long journey.  Personal mastery is exhibited by continually clarifying what we truly want and learning how to see objective reality more clearly so we can move toward what we truly want.  “People with a high level of personal mastery are acutely aware of their ignorance, their incompetence, their growth areas.  And they are deeply self-confident” (Senge, 1990).

 This is not a contradiction.  Personal mastery is a mark of true maturity.  Covey (1989) states that after World War II western society as a whole experienced a major shift away from unchangeable principles and the “character ethic” to a personal quick fix mentality he calls the “personality ethic”.

  The personality ethic places greater importance on “appearing to be” rather than on “being.”  For instance, rather than focusing on overcoming ignorance, a student may attempt to cover it up.  Such a student seeks a grade, but cares little about the actual learning.  The student’s goal is to manipulate the social system and ignore what is really happening in the mind.  The personality ethic is superficial, manipulative, and self-serving.  What matters most is outward appearance rather than inward substance and strength of character.

 Personal mastery involves seeing objective reality and aligning our subjective values with principles.  Principles are guidelines for human conduct that are self-evident and have proven to have enduring value.  Examples of principles include integrity, honesty, humility, justice, and industry. Aligning personal values with these enduring principles result in inward strength of character and genuine caring and serving (Covey, 1989).
Recent research has shown a significant link between EI and successful leadership styles (i.e. transformational as opposed to transactional leadership)
  • Higher ratings of leadership effectiveness, Improved teamwork, Enhanced coping strategies and Success
  • Effective planning, Reduced stress, Reduced absenteeism, Improved interpersonal relationships
How does it work?

Emotional Intelligence addresses the following seven key Emotional competencies:

Emotional  Self -Awareness:

The skill of perceiving and understanding one’s own emotions
  • The capacity to identify and understand the impact one’s own feelings is having on thoughts, decisions, behavior and performance at work
Emotional Expression:

The skill of expressing one’s own emotions effectively
  • Creating greater understanding amongst colleagues about yourself
  • Creating trust and perceptions of genuineness amongst colleagues
Emotional awareness of others:

The skill of perceiving and understanding others emotions 
  • Greater understanding of others, how to engage, respond, motivate and connect with them effectively
  • Emotions Reasoning:
The skill of utilizing emotional information in decision-making 
  • Enhanced decision-making where more information is considered in the process
  • Greater buy-in from others into decisions that are made
Emotional Self Management:

The skill of effectively managing one’s own emotions
  • Improved job satisfaction and engagement
  • Improved ability to cope with high work demands
  • Enhanced productivity and performance
Emotional management of others:

The skill of influencing the moods and emotions of others
  • The capacity to generate greater productivity and performance in others
  • The capacity to generate a positive and satisfying work environment for others
  • The capacity to effectively deal with workplace conflict
Emotional Self Control:

The skill of effectively controlling strong emotional experiences and associated behaviors
  • The capacity to think clearly in stressful situations
  • The capacity to deal effectively with situations that cause strong emotions
 “There are no right and wrong ways to feel in any one given situation, however, there are more and less effective ways of dealing with emotions.”
With his extensive background in IT, Robert is especially effective coaching IT professionals.  He holds an MBA in Management Information Systems from DePaul University, is Microsoft certified, MCSA (Microsoft Certified System Administrator) and has several years of experience both as an IT Consultant and a Corporate Network Infrastructure Manager. 

 His clients feel particularly confortable because they can talk the same "IT language" and because of his familiarity with the professional issues they face.

In his work as a career coach, Robert facilitates group meetings from a coaching perspective which emphasizes that looking for a job is a process, and that we need to focus on the process, not just the final landing of a job.

Robert uses a "group coaching" approach by creating meetings which offer a safe/respectful place for all participants, allowing time for each person to report and contribute, inviting group brainstorming or discussions, and looking for individual learning. 

Loneliness, accompanied by isolation, are two important issues that need to be addressed and group coaching helps the clients see that they are not alone, not the only ones going through this and that other “good” people are going through the same.

Synergy and new creative energies are the result. Attendees share their experiences in the job search. The successful ones and also those they learned from, including: "being ignored", "dead-ends", and "rejections".

The group is a place where people can connect, learn from each other and encourage one other along the path in this special time of their lives. It is a time for opportunities and, there where those are not present, we will create new ones.

 Group coaching also helps clients getting out of their own minds see how others are dealing with the situation and extend to help the people around them while allowing themselves to receive help from others. Often long-term friendships among clients come from the group coaching process.
Career coaching is very dear to me because of my exposure to it, both as a client and as a coach. Fear is rampant at his time; catastrophic thinking and an attitude of scarcity tend to prevail. Anger and resentment are also part of the process and need to be addressed. Hopelessness and despair are also common and manifest in anguish and depression.

 I have been through all of that and I have learned so much in the process. I  took the hardest way and decided for a career change instead of staying in my field of expertise. The risk taking and following my newfound passion gave me the energy to re-create a new future and myself. I have found that the best way to coach people in career transition is a multifaceted holistic approach. 

Becoming aware and identifying the saboteur inside is the first step. Discovering and defining the gremlin’s work (the saboteur) and its deleterious effect comes next.  Moving to positive thinking is the last step.  The most important result in this process is shifting from worrying about the future and regretting the past to live in the present focusing on the task at hand understanding that finding a job is a process made of small steps and projects.At this stage negativity and failure are not options. Positive attitudes will bring positive outcomes; it is possible that those will turn out to be different from the client’s original expectations but none-the-less positive. There are no failures, only learning experiences. Opportunities are everywhere and, there where those are lacking, positive attitude will create new ones.

There is a tendency to neglect the body and its health when overwhelmed by the preoccupation of “income”. It is easy to succumb to disease if bombarded by negativity and a sense of worthlessness both from the inside and the outside. Regular checkups, various forms of exercising, healthy foods and good habits are part of the coaching process to ensure that the body is strong and a sense of physical well-being is maintained.

Heart and soul is the realm of emotions which are fueled by thoughts. Emotional detachment from the final outcome is crucial because so often the job search is filled with rejections. When taken personally, these kill the client’s confidence and are looked at as failures. The ability to reframe those “bad” experiences into “learning” opportunities is a lifesaver for the client. As I often say to my clients: ‘it is the best thing that could ever happen to you”. I coach their greatness and show them their new developed traits and strengths.


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    Leadership & Personal Mastery

    Introduction: Emotional Intelligence

    EI First Competency:
    Emotional Self Awareness

    EI Second Competency: Emotional Expression

    EI Third Competency:
    Understanding Others' Emotions

    EI Fourth Competency: Emotional Reasoning and Decision Making

    EI Fifth Competency:
    Emotional Self Management

    EI Sixth Competency:Emotional Management of Others

    EI Seventh Competency: Emotional Control

Coaching is a very unique profession that utilizes the best of therapy, consulting, mentoring, and even friendship, to create a unique client-coach relationship. This relationship is a powerful alliance, a partnership of sorts, to help clients manage their lives, create more fulfillment, and live their dreams.